it’s okay to do nothing
Hi, I’m Jules and I’m a recovering productivity-addict. My twenties were spent hustling, over performing and people-pleasing. After experiencing a special cocktail of burnout and immense grief at the end of my twenties (thanks, Saturn Return), I was inspired (more like unwillingly forced) to confront my adamant avoidance of rest and my beliefs around when I was allowed to do nothing.
Ever since learning this valuable lesson of embracing rest, I became more in tune with my intuition and my body. This allowed for more peace and ease in all areas of my life. No longer was I striving for perfection or to work a certain number of hours to feel fulfilled. I was happy just being me – and that’s a feeling I’ve been trying hard to hold onto.
Whenever I feel resistant to rest, it’s usually a sign I need it most. Rest can look different for everyone, and for the sake of providing some tips for low-key summer enjoyment, I’ll amend rest to also include “recharge” or “rejuvenate.” Here are some ways I’ve learned to embrace rest and incorporate do-nothing time into my routine. Then, I’ll share some low-lift activities I’m leaning on this summer!
Do-Nothing List
Read
Some books that have helped me learn how to rest are 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think (I think I gifted this to all my girlfriends last year), Empath Survival Guide and Psalm for the Wild Built. The key to reading consistently is to find a genre you love. There are so many flavors of books out there! I love starting the day with a more self-development or inspiring book, but before bed I like to read my fantasy novels. I am currently in the middle of three different series – oops. Find me on Goodreads if you want more recommendations!
Watch Podcasts on YouTube
This has become my new favorite life hack. I’m scratching my “lay on the couch and rot” itch while also learning something or hearing from someone I admire. Some of my favorites are: What’s the Juice, Move with Heart, Call Her Daddy, Working Hard, Hardly Working, The Diary of a CEO and Let’s be Honest with Kristin Cavalleri.
Stretch
I like to keep my yoga mat handy so I can drop down while watching aforementioned YouTube podcasts and do some stretching! To be honest, I could definitely do this more. Every time I do make time for just a few minutes of stretching, I can tell immediately how my body thanks me.
Spend time outside
Last weekend we got out the plastic kiddie pool we got for our dog Xenon and nudged it against our outdoor couch. It was the perfect way to cool off our feet while lounging in the sun in the driveway. I put on a playlist and had a grand time doing nothing but watch Xenon play with a butterfly. Did I have things I should have been doing? Yes. Was doing nothing more important even still? Based on the cues my body and mind were giving me, also yes.
Red light therapy
One of my favorite new wellness hacks is putting on my red light therapy panel and showering at night before bed. I do my whole evening routine in front of the panel for 15 minutes. Red light therapy is said to help with inflammation in the body, reduce fine lines and wrinkles and promote better sleep! I have a friend that meditates in front of it for 15 minutes. Either way, it requires stillness and darkness, so I love it’s gentle nudge to do nothing.
Dance around the house
This might be a bit niche, but there’s no better way to loosen up and bring some joy into your life than dancing around the house. Pick your favorite song, put it on and dance your little heart out. It will boost your mood and your heart rate! My current summer jam is Supersad by Suki Waterhouse. Dance along with me
Focus on gratitude
Forcing yourself to rest can be hard, and sometimes in the process those old patterns pop up of “I am not enough. I am not doing enough.” It may seem simple, but every time I mentally spiral, I switch my thoughts to gratitude. I think of all the things I am so grateful for. This helps me realize that there’s really nothing to worry about, and helps me bounce back from making a big deal in my head over absolutely nothing.
Do Something Fun List
For the days when you're in a funk and need to do something to get out of it, here are some things that fill my cup that don’t feel too overwhelming. These are all activities that are pretty low lift and give almost instant gratification!
Try new restaurants and coffee shops: my current favorites are bica (Portuguese cafe) in Normal Heights and I’m always bringing guests by The Lafayette for drinks or simply to soak in the vibes.
Go to the beach alone or with friends: Find me in Del Mar most of the time, but I also love Coronado Island!
Go on a solo walk
At home pilates class with the FORM app
Journal
Redecorate my home: I love moving my current decor around to give new energy and life to the space!
Cook or bake: This is a great time to incorporate a kitchen dance party if you ask me!
Get a massage
Remember that you are so deserving of do-nothing time. You aren’t a machine, you’re a human with lots of feelings and needs beyond what you can do for others. If you want to order groceries for delivery instead of going to the store even though you’re perfectly capable or even have the time – do that. If you want to skip a workout to read or rest – do that. The best way to build self-trust and connection is to listen to what you truly need in the moment and give it to yourself. Don’t try to override your natural instincts with “shoulds.” It does get easier the more you do it, and you can prove to yourself that doing-nothing is one of the best ways to take care of yourself.
I’d love to know what your relationship to rest is like, and how you’re embracing rest this summer!
